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"The only thing that stands between a man
and what he wants from life is often merely
the will to try
it and the faith to believe that it is possible."
Richard M. DeVos
Developing the body language of
confidence can be really important when
attending job interviews, presenting,
dealing with complaints and being
involved in related activities. One
confident person differs from another in
their body language but these are some
- Know that all body
language is contextual.
What do I mean by, "all body
language is contextual"? I mean body
language does not happen in
isolation, that interpreting it
depends on the situation in which it
occurs. It is influenced by the
cultures, places, people and
situations involved. This means that
trying to interpret or use a single
body movement or gesture without
taking the context into account can
result in misunderstanding.
- Take up space.
Confident people take up space.
Don't twine your legs around the
chair or sit in the smallest place
at a meeting.
people are visible.
Don't hide behind a table or lectern
when presenting, don't get lost in a
huge chair in an interview, be
- Have soft,
direct eye contact.
Confident people look at people, in
Anglo Saxon culture anyway. (This
differs in other cultures.) Not a
hard staring gaze, but a soft gentle
focus in the eyes.
- Keep your
Confident people keep their chests
broad rather than collapsed and
dropped. This doesn't mean they
stick their chests out, rather, that
they keep the width across them. It
also doesn't mean they fix them –
they still have supple flexible
people look comfortable in their
Rather than tightening them in an
aggressive way they keep them supple
- Breathe easily.
Confident people breathe easily and
deeply (unless of course they have a
health problem that prevents this).
Rather than forced breathing or
shallow fast breathing or irregular
breathing they can breathe easily.
people hold their heads up.
Holding your head up can be a
physical thing and a psychological
factor. Keep your head up. It
doesn't have to jut forward or be
tilted to the side. Keep your head
- Stand on both
Confident people look as if they can
support themselves by standing on
both legs. It's fine to be able to
move from one to the other but also
be able to have weight equally on
both legs. This is in contrast to
people who bend one knee and drop
their hip and stand on only one
- Have your
facial expression match your
If you are angry have your face look
serious. I've seen people smile when
angry, it doesn't fit. It can
undermine the emotion. It can send
the wrong message. Have your body
and words saying the same thing,
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are only general in nature and
may not apply to all people, all
cultures or all situations.
While every care has been taken
to ensure the tips are useful,
no responsibility can be taken
for the results gained from
their implementation. Please
seek individual professional
guidance for any difficulties
you may have in your
communication, inter-personal or
emotional intelligence skills.