Work should be just one part of your life.
“How can an achievement-motivated workaholic learn to back off, relax, de-stress, and feel good about doing it? ”
Leo has written an excellent post in which he looks at answers in several parts
1. Being achievement-motivated.
2. Being a workaholic.
3. Learning to relax and de-stress.
4. Learning to feel good about it.
Read his post How to Stop Being a Workaholic
While some of us might fit the stereotype of Jeff Spicoli beach bums who don’t care about anything other than riding waves, there is an entirely spiritual and zen side to the sport of surfing that gives us a chance to really understand how to navigate the waters of life. In fact one of the most common things you’ll hear a surfer say when asked about how much time they spend in the water is “Of course I surf every day that I can, it keeps you from going nuts.” So, here it is, in no particular order:
One of the key ingredients to a successful life is belief in one’s self. Without self confidence how can you hope to meet the challenges that you are bound to face in life?
You must believe that you are worthy of the things you desire. Do not let past setbacks or failures stand in your way. You are living in the present and this is where your actions will count. Remember the errors of yesterday only to learn from them. Use this knowledge to avoid the same pitfalls in the future.
You can also try some of the following simple tips to build self confidence and self improvement:
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This is a cutting-edge event that's coming up soon - Nov. 6th - 8th to be exact.
It's your chance to get the tools, techniques, advice, and strategies from the best self development experts in the world - over 40 of them - all in one place.
You'll get everything you need to transform your personal self and your professional life into what you've dreamed of and keep it that way permanently.
It's the opportunity you've been waiting for - to become the healthier, wealthier, happier, more successful YOU!
I know you're ready for true happiness and true success and that's why I didn't want you to miss out.
It's called Yoovolution and it's the world's largest personal and professional self development conference in the history of the Internet.
What makes it a truly one-of-a-kind event is that it's being held in a completely 3D virtual environment. That's great news for you! You don't have to worry about travel hassles and eating bad hotel food, plus the ticket price is significantly reduced compared to other conferences of this magnitude and quality. They're able to keep costs down low because of the cutting-edge technology. And, when I say magnitude and quality ... I mean you'll be blown away. You'll have access to over 40 world-class speakers and experts, including T. Harv Eker, Brian Tracy, Frank Maguire, Les Brown, Mark Victor Hansen, Scott Martineau, Ellie Drake, Alex Mandossian, and many, many more. The 3D virtual experience will be every bit as good as attending an event physically. In fact, the speakers will be coming to you live inside the virtual world. And, you'll be able to network with all the attendees in ways you never thought possible.
Make sure you check this out. It's unlikely they'll be able to put an event of this kind with so many speakers in one place again.
From Rober Schwartz
We all have an inner critic living inside us who speaks up at times, in varying degrees, negatively evaluating our own actions and those of others. As facilitators and coaches we have many opportunities to deal with our inner critic. We might doubt or judge ourselves harshly about how we dealt with a client or facilitated a group. Our critical voice often results from early shaming or humiliating, and fear-based experiences. We internalize these negative critical messages about ourselves and replay them in our minds. The inner critic evolves as a coping strategy in response to these early experiences.
The bottom line is when our inner critic rears its head, our experience is painful and distracting. However, by addressing our inner critic, we can develop our compassion for others and ourselves.
Compassion is the antidote to the inner critic. Though it may seem counter-intuitive, the critical part of us is actually our ally. When the inner critic arises, we can listen and make a choice about how much power and attention we will give that part of ourselves. We can also identify any useful, valid information our inner critic may have for us. Gradually, by paying attention to our inner critic in this way, its strength diminishes because we can more quickly move through the cycle of acknowledging, choosing and then releasing that part of ourselves. Each time we hear our inner critic’s voice, we can acknowledge it and make a choice for compassion. By doing this we can:
As we begin befriending our inner critic, we can use our interventions with others to help them enter the same process.
One approach that I practice and share with my clients is to address the inner critic by giving it a form. One of our Facilitative Coaching workshop participants found that she could address her inner critic by creating it out of clay and making it an armchair. She said, “If I give my inner critic a comfortable place to sit than it won’t want to bother me.” Her creation was in response to an exercise about dealing with the inner critic. By doing this she offered compassion to herself and her inner critic. As a result she felt freer to express herself during the workshop and be present to learn.
Written and edited by Dale Schwartz, copyright Roger Schwartz and Associates
Done right, budgets are the sexiest, most exciting, challenging and delightful documents you'll ever read!
Your budget ... tells you how much your business will grow, and how. Your budget tells you what you will learn, what equipment or skills you will add. It gives you a "sneak peak" at your marketing, your new services, your new office, your new computer, and the world you will enjoy in the future.
Balanced living means that more than ever the demands on our lifestyle compel us to Aspire, Achieve, and Attain! But sometimes we need a little help in getting what we want.
Is there a formula for success?
I have a very simple formula I've used that I want to share with you that can do wonders in your business and your life.
The formula is simple, but just because it's simple doesn't make it easy.
However, if you start to use it and follow it, it will yield great results for you. So ... what is this simple formula? In order to HAVE anything in life, we need to DO something to achieve it, and in order to DO the right things in the right way at the right time, we have to BE the right person ... which means BE X DO = HAVE.
If you want wealth, you must invest. If you want love, you must first give it. If you want respect, you must earn it.
No matter what, you need to DO something in order to HAVE something. But DO-ing is not the only thing you need to change in order to HAVE something. You must also BE-come the person who would DO these things well and thus HAVE the things you desire.
You must also develop the identity, beliefs and values of the type of person who has those things has. That's why many people who come into great wealth very suddenly find themselves worse off in just a few short years.
Why?
They never developed the inner beliefs and values to match their outer reality. In short, they never BE-came "millionaires." Business is no different. In order to HAVE amazing customers (and amazing businesses need amazing customers), you must develop your business into one that will attract amazing customers.
So how do you develop the mind-set and the skill-set to maximize the BE X DO = HAVE formula?
Work at it.
It's as simple as that ... but as I said before, simple is not always easy. First, you need to train, or re-train your brain. Just like our bodies need regular exercise, our minds do, too - or else they default to negative and unproductive thinking.
You also must remember that DO-ing is as important as or even more important than BE-ing.
I often say you can't sit on a mountain-top and "OHM" your way to wealth. So you must be prepared to do the extra and the "overtime" to HAVE great results.
To jump start this process, here are four things you can do to start working on the BE-ing and DO-ing parts of the formula.
1)Idealization: Start stretching your mind with possibilities. Choose your ideal life and how you want it to be, whether is it being a great parent or having your own jet. Choose it as already yours, and accept your new thoughts as true. Saying you "want" something causes your mind to think you don't have it - meaning you won't get it. Remember though, this is not an immediate process, it takes time to re-train yourself.
2)Visualization: Relax 10-minutes in morning and 10-minutes in evening and picture your ideal life as real. Visualize and accept your ideal self as real and believe what you want is already yours, because at the subconscious level, your mind doesn't know what is real and what isn't. And keep planting those "seeds" of positive thoughts every day.
3)Verbalization: Create a series of at least 20 "I AM" statements that you speak or shout out loud every day. Give them and yourself energy, passion and vibration. Again, you are re-training your mind to accept a new reality - yours. And yes, that little voice in the back of your head will disagree for the first few weeks, months or maybe even years, but you have to start somewhere.
4)Materialization: Be aware of your changing outer environment as the seeds you've been planting start to manifest - especially as you do the extra work you need to do to make it all happen. Realize it's not a week long process ... but rather one that happens over time. Your own energy and emotions about the goals that matter most to you bring those goals to you faster ... so become a passionate advocate of the best and only product you really have - you.
Be, Do and Have. These three little words really can change your life.
And now that you know, the rest really is up to you!
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by Bob Proctor
I believe we would all agree that having a winning feeling is prerequisite to achieving outstanding results. A person can't possibly expect to win if they're constantly focusing on failure! The real secret here is to capture that winning feeling of success as often as you can to create the environment necessary to succeed. ... Article continues
