They know the best ways to keep their eyes open.

Over more than 30 years, the chief executives of Chinese companies have risen from pariahs to role models in a rapidly changing world. I recently interviewed 15 top Chinese corporate leaders, and found that they have important lessons to teach us in the West. They especially show an underlying ability to broaden their thinking and integrate perspectives. They reveal three perspective-taking practices are essential for leading change and that can prove of value to leaders everywhere:

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“I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past.”

-- Stephen Covey

So, I'm trying to lose some weight. And I notice that the days that I declare to myself, "No sugar today," I end up eating sugar earlier than ever. I actually forget that I have even made myself this promise...usually until just a moment after the sugar is melting from my tongue.

Can you relate? Maybe not in this area, but we all have places where we do not keep promises to ourselves. Where do you do this?

Not following through on commitments is a form of resistance. You can probably see clearly how this resistance might sabotage my efforts toward my goal.
My resistance is brilliant. It continually takes new and different forms and is quite good at disguising itself and finding new ways to outsmart me. Your resistance is brilliant, too.

Resistance will keep us from achieving what we want and need. Worse than that, resistance has the power to sending us and our businesses careening in exactly the opposite direction.

Whether you are a leader in an organization or in your own life, anytime you find yourself in a change situation, you will find resistance. If you don't, you are not looking hard enough. It is the way of things. You will resist. Your staff will resist. Your boss will resist. Your clients will resist. Potential employers will resist. Your family will resist. The higher the stakes, the more resistance you will find.

If we are not aware that resistance is at work, resistance wins. But only 100% of the time.
Your only hope of overcoming resistance is to expect it. But even that isn't enough. You also have to value it and embrace it. You have to work with your resistance, not against it.

You have to get intimate with resistance. And that starts with recognizing it. Here's what you want to look for:

Obvious resistance is easy to spot:

Refusal
Arguing
Disruptive behavior The most powerful forms of resistance are usually much more subtle:
Not being available
Not getting started
Getting distracted and not completing
Offering misleading information
Bringing up other issues
Becoming very busy with something else
Getting sick
Anger
Irritation
Frustration
Confusion
Criticism
Silence
Feigning acceptance, without asking necessary questions or working out the details
Finding reasons to be removed from the task
Surfing the web
Compulsively checking your BlackBerry or iPhone
Oh yeah, and forgetting.

Which of these do you do? Which do you see the people you work with doing? Which do you see in your clients? Start noticing the signs of resistance in you and the people around you.

Remember resistance is very creative.

Next time, we'll talk about a few ways to work with your resistance.

Sharon Rich works with organizations and people approaching major change. Just look at the spectacular corporate failures of the past decade to see that talent and intelligence aren't enough to create success. Sharon helps leaders to get the specific tools, skills and perspectives they need to create successful change and make it stick. For more information and to get a complimentary copy of her article "6 WAYS LEADERS SABOTAGE CHANGE and 5 Principles Change Leaders Need Now," go to http://www.leadershipincorporated.com/Free_Stuff.html

"There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly."

R. Buckminster Fuller

Four steps to getting the results you want in business--and in life

Changing our behaviour to achieve better results is the most important challenge we face in trying to compete in this chaotic world. Maybe you're in a slump or know deep down that you've accepted an average performance when a great one is possible. When you're ready to change--to increase your sales, to take some calculated risks, to improve any and all aspects of your life--you may not know how to begin. What can you do differently to create more positive results in your work and personal life?

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"When you're finished changing, you're finished."

-- Benjamin Franklin

"When you're finished changing, you're finished."

-- Benjamin Franklin

"The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."

-- Will Garcia

Free Self-Acceptance Training Program now available at The Ascension Training Centre

In these three lessons, you will be taken on a journey into your Self.

If you are to move forward and make the best of all your gifts and talents, then you need to be able to fully accept your self. This program will show you the parameters necessary for successful Self-Acceptance.

Life’s journey is always about Self-Acceptance. What you see in others and judge as unacceptable is a mirror to something about you that you don’t want to see or accept.

Self-Acceptance is a process of recognizing these self-deficiencies and bringing them home to roost, that is, make them a part of your personal inventory and learn to accept each and every one of them for what they are, a little piece of you – like it or not.

To learn more, and to do it for free, go to this page and click on the free course on the right side of the page.

Enjoy!!

Free Self-Acceptance Training Program now available at The Ascension Training Centre

In these three lessons, you will be taken on a journey into your Self.

If you are to move forward and make the best of all your gifts and talents, then you need to be able to fully accept your self. This program will show you the parameters necessary for successful Self-Acceptance.

Life’s journey is always about Self-Acceptance. What you see in others and judge as unacceptable is a mirror to something about you that you don’t want to see or accept.

Self-Acceptance is a process of recognizing these self-deficiencies and bringing them home to roost, that is, make them a part of your personal inventory and learn to accept each and every one of them for what they are, a little piece of you – like it or not.

To learn more, and to do it for free, go to this page and click on the free course on the right side of the page.

Enjoy!!